If your “friends” can’t speak life into you, RUN, if your “friends” only talk about their lives and they don’t have the discernment to see past your “i’m good” again let them go. We are too grown to hold onto empty friendships. I have noticed and held onto friendships that I like to call one-sided. Time has taught me this is not friendship.
What is friendship?
Friendship is honesty, as I like to say keeping it real. You know what I can stand? Going through a sucky situation and when I come out alive on the other end someone who is suppose to be a friend hits me with a “I knew that wasn’t a good idea”. WELLLLL, why didn’t you say anything!!??
Brethren, if any person is overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort, you who are spiritual [who are responsive to and controlled by the Spirit] should set him right and restore and reinstate him, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness. (Galatians 6:1)
Friendship is intentional, have you ever had a moment where you needed to vent or share and your “friend” was more focused on their phone or overall just not present with you. Friends should listen to you and listen to understand not listen to reply. Their presence should be intentional. A friend who is present makes one feel cared about and that what I’m saying matters to you.
Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.” (Proverbs 27:9)
Friendship is rejoicing, pay attention to how stale a conversation becomes when you express an accomplishment to foe friend. Your accomplishments are your friend’s accomplishments cause their love and support should be apart of your successes. Jealously? Don’t nobody got time for that.
“But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic.” (James 3:14-15)
Friendship is growth, when there is no movement in something it is dead. That even means in your friendships. Where are you both progressing too? Or is there is only one of you moving? Can’t have squad goals if you are all just entertaining each other but not lifting each other to progress somewhere in their lives. This can mean spiritual, physical, or financial but friendship has it perks and if growth is not one of them #issaproblem.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)
My prayer is that you understand the depth and purpose of friendship and you do not walk into 2018 with meaningless connections. Your squad is your tribe, find them and love them.